So why is it human nature to want what we can't have? It's a strange phenomenom and for those in relationships, it applies more than ever.

A relationship which drags on without either partner doing much to keep the chemistry alive is a one way street to the scrap heap. But it happens over and over again and then, when the bubble finally bursts with one or the other declaring they want out, suddenly the urgency is rediscovered by the person spurned and it then becomes a race to get their ex back.

It's called getting into the comfort zone of a relationship and really, there is a fine line between being together and being apart. Sometimes it takes a jolt such as being dumped to realize what you've lost and if you're in this situation don't despair, there are things you can do to win back your ex.

One of the more controversial books written on the subject of how to get your ex back is The Magic Of Making Up. In it, author T W Jackson outlines a series of techniques that spurned lovers can adopt to get back in favor with their ex.

One of the more controversial of these is a method where the person dumped basically does nothing other than agree that separating is the best course of action. In fact, a person should go as far as to declare that they we're also thinking about the same thing and then just walk away.

But they're not really walking away. In fact, what they are actually doing is planting themselves on higher ground and turning the situation back in their favor.

It gets back to what we we're talking about earlier in wanting what you can't have. It affects both people in a break up. The person spurned who suddenly is confronted with the situation of losing the person they love after being dumped. Yet, by keeping their head and thinking on their feet by using the tactic above, this person can also create the same sense of loss in the ir partner by declaring it's best for all concerned if they separate.

Can you see where this is leading? Now there are two reactions possible here. One is a reaction of anger from the "dumper" who has their ego dented by this response or, they could develop a sudden bout of respect for the person they're giving the marching orders to because they didn't get the "Linda Blair type reaction in The Exorcist."

T W Jackson didn't endear himself to many of the so called relationships experts because of the techniques revealed in The Magic Of Making Up but the good news is they aren't the same predictable techniques being taught by the majority.

Jackson says he has the testimonials to prove what he preaches works and says people just need to have the strength of their convictions to maintain composure during and after the "execution."